Here are some tips for dealing with other situations you may be experiencing, including:
Some teens find it hard to tell their friends and others about their parents splitting up. Sometimes they worry about what others will think. Sometimes they think their friends will think they are different now, when all that has really changed is their family. Here are a couple of suggestions:
Remember: Good friends will be glad you've told them. They will know that you're still you, even though your family is changing.
Living part of the time with one parent and part of the time with the other can be a little confusing at first, but it can also be new and exciting. The first thing you will have to do is to get organized:
Next, make the new home feel comfortable:
If your parents have very different rules and lifestyles, you will probably have to do your best to get used to the differences. You might even enjoy the differences. But again, if you feel that your needs are not being met, say so. Maybe some things can be changed to help make you feel more comfortable.
If one parent has moved far away, or you don't get to see one parent very often, you might miss him or her. Even if you live part of the time with each parent, it's normal to miss the one you're not with. There are lots of things you can do to feel connected. Here are a few suggestions:
Special times like birthdays and Christmas can be hard at first. Fortunately, there are lots of ways to deal with special times. Maybe you can celebrate special occasions twice — once with each parent. Or maybe you can celebrate one holiday with one parent, and the next with the other parent. Or alternate yearly — for example, have your birthday with one parent one year and with your other parent the next year.
If you feel sad about losing some of your family's traditions for celebrations, try creating new ones. Each year, try to do some new things that you can do again next year — and the year after that. Before long, you'll find yourself with lots of new traditions.
As your parents begin to get on with their lives, they might start dating. It's normal for some parents who are newly single to enjoy their freedom and see lots of different people. You might feel jealous, and want your parent all to yourself. Or you might feel betrayed, as though it's too soon after the separation or divorce for him or her to be seeing someone new. Try to see it from your parent's point of view. And try to figure out why your parent's dating bothers you.
Also, try not to judge your parent's new friends or try to drive people away. Just as you weren't responsible for your parents' separation, you also aren't responsible for their new relationships.
If there are things you need to know, ask. You have a right to ask questions about what is going to happen and why.
Lots of teens worry about breaking the news to their friends. But separation and divorce are very common these days.
Good friends will be glad you've told them. You're still you, even though your family is changing.